“Let’s talk about confrontation.”
Said nobody ever, but there lies the problem. We should be talking about confrontation. It happens to be a part of our world today. I mean, ask yourself this, do you agree with everything someone has ever said to you? No. Of course not! And that’s okay.
As the church we have to get better at understanding that confrontation isn’t always negative. Therefore, it also means that we can do confrontation. Often, we struggle with confrontation due to how we were raised. Our homes being the primary place we discovered how we were gonna handle our emotions and voice them. If your home was a place that freely allowed confrontation, or put in a better way, if your home was a place that allowed you to express an opinion that was contrary to someone else’s - then maybe you handle it well. However, if your home was not like that, then maybe confrontation isn’t something you deal with well.
In this blog post, I’ll suggest a few tips on how we as Christians can go about confrontation in a healthy way that does not intimidate us or cause us to disrespect the other individual we happen to be in conflict with.
Tip 1: Talk to God
I know so many times we often think that “God already knows so why should I tell Him?” or “He put me in this!” No matter what the emotion might be. Speak to God. Tell Him. Cry out and pour your heart out because He is listening. He knows the area of your heart that is hurting you. He wants you to journey with Him through this but after you talk with Him. Remember it becomes our turn to listen. To listen to what He will have to say and understand that his way of solving the issue may not be similar to yours. If that happens to be the case - it’s important to not allow our emotions to get the better of us.
1 Peter 5:7 NLT says “Give all your cares and worries to God, for he cares for you.“
Tip 2: Pray on the situation.
1 Thessalonians 5: 17 - “pray without ceasing“
Never stop praying on the situation, never stop assuming that God isn’t working out the situation and never stop believing that the solution will come!
Tip 3: Talk with the individual or individuals involved.
It’s important for the situation to be addressed after doing Tip 1 and 2. Usually, the person/s may not understand what they’ve done and you’re able to shed light on how various situations have made you feel or how they have come across. However, unfortunately, sometimes the person/s are fully aware of how they have treated you and aren’t remorseful.
Friend, let me pray for you. I pray that whatever conflict you may be facing that God is in the midst of it all. I pray that you never stop praying and seeking the face of God. I pray for respectful and peaceful resolutions. I pray that God guides you through this period and for peace to know that this season of conflict will not last forever. I pray for God’s wisdom to fall upon you and for the love of Jesus to surround you. In Jesus’ name, amen.