Soul Ties: Ways to create them?

Last week, Viktoria mentioned what soul ties are, if you haven’t read it click here. It is assumed that soul ties are only made through sexual relationships with another person, however, we see Biblically that there are more than one way to create a soul tie. In Viktoria’s post, she touched on the closeness in relationship with David and Jonathan, so close in fact that the Bible says, ‘the soul of Jonathan was knit to soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.’ 1 Samuel 18:1. So how do we create soul ties?

There are three ways in which you can create a soul tie:

  1. Spiritually

  2. Physically

  3. Emotionally

In marriage, you will be connected to your husband or wife in these three ways. If you are covering your spouse with prayer, asking for the Lord’s protection over them and have entered into a covenant with them, then know you are spiritually bound together. Once you have consecrated your marriage by having sex, that spiritual bond only goes deeper as now you’ve begun to know each other physically. You’ve explored each other’s bodies and allowed your souls to intertwine. We also know that the Bible tells us, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh“ Genesis 2:24. The joining of souls, then brings your emotional connection to whole other level.

However, even if you are single or in a relationship - you can still create any three of these soul ties below.

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Spiritually, we are connected to one another when we hold pray for each other, or a negative spiritual soul tie can be formed when we allow things or spirits to go against our Godly spirit. Ephesians 6:12 “For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the dark powers of this world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.

I’ll tell you story, I refuse to watch horror movies. The last movie I watched was insidious and I slept with my parents (much to their annoyance) for at least a good 3 days before my mum decided enough was enough. But when I was watching these kind of movies, I’m becoming frightened, fearful, scared and my spirit is being opened up to things that Ephesians 6, would say is ‘dark powers of this world’. Now some might say that it doesn’t go that deep. But it does. Be careful of who you’re watching, what you’re watching, what you’re listening too, what you’re saying, check your spirit. As Christians, it is the first place the enemy attacks us. Do not allow your spirit to form ties with dark powers of this world or anyone persons that affect you spiritually.


This is probably the most obvious soul tie, as it does require sexual intercourse or acts to take place. Whether this is physically having intercourse or performing any oral sexual acts, down to kissing - everything creates a soul tie. Referring back to what Viktoria said again last week, it is important to know what creates a negative or positive soul tie. Linu, will talk more about this next week. For many Christian couples, this is a reason why they restrain from kissing before marriage, just as much as they restrain from sexual intercourse. When you create a soul tie, remember that it runs deeper than you could ever image, we take on the attributes of a person, their mood, their frustrations, hurts etc. Now God created us to be one with our spouse, to create these beautiful soul ties in the safety of marriage and a covenant (just means a promise).

If you’re single or in a relationship, any sexual activity creates a soul tie. It is so important to make sure, we are choosing the right people to court and date, because every soul tie has the potential to be beautiful and healthy but they also have the potential to be super unhealthy and really damaging. We probably wouldn’t associate having a kiss with creating a soul tie, but that’s exactly what it does. Remember to stay in prayer and discernment when choosing the individuals you let into your life.


Emotionally charged soul-ties, are created in ways of having a deep love or care for an individual. If we’re looking to the Bible to help us explain, what this could look like, the relationship between Naomi and Ruth is one that creates such an emotional soul tie. After experiencing great anguish together, Ruth says “Do not urge me to leave you or to return from following you. For where you go I will go, and where you lodge I will lodge. Your people shall be my people and your God my God.” (Ruth 1:16) An emotional soul tie, is one that needs to be handle with such care, because it can lead to areas such as manipulation and control.

I have an emotional soul tie with my mother. If I see her down and frustrated, that impacts me. Why? Because I love her. Emotionally, I am invested in my mother, like-wise if not more so, she with me. It is often the parent-child relationship, where we first begin to explore healthy emotional soul ties or unhealthy emotional soul ties. Be careful, who you invest in, who you allow to take energy from you and be so wise in who you share with. Ruth clinged to Naomi, because of how much she loved her. Usually, being emotionally invested in people’s lives is great, we can be happy for them through their triumphs and be a shoulder to lean on in their trials. However, in a relationship or single (with friends and family), be mindful of the people who you let make emotional soul ties with you. It is something you carry and unfortunately we cannot carry the emotional burden of every individual, that’s the Lord’s job.

Ultimately, a soul tie is a bond that forms some sort of attachment, whether godly, ungodly, pure or demonic. Prayers for wisdom and discernment are necessary moving forward in any kind of relationship you wish to build with anyone. The Lord will reveal more about this person or peoples, ask for clarity of vision to see what the Lord is attempting to show you.

I’d love to pray for you sister friend, please click the audio link below. Nikkita xo

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