Who is in Your Inner Circle

Let me tell you the story of a certain girlfriend of mine. She and I became friends while we were in university. She is the complete opposite to me – I am a feeler and she is a thinker. She goes into a problem logically and my first instinct is to react emotionally. There is very little common ground we share but one thing we both love and believe in is Jesus.

If it was not for Jesus, I am not sure if we would be friends right now. She is part of my inner circle and that’s the way God intended for this friendship to be. Jesus had twelve disciples who were with Him for the adventure of ministry, they travelled with Him, ate with Him and did life with Him. Although there was the twelve, there was a special three – Peter, James and John who I think was Jesus’ inner circle. They got to see Jairus’ daughter being raised from the dead, the transfiguration and they were during Jesus’ tough time at Garden of Gethsemane. They saw Jesus’ victories, they saw Jesus for who He really is and they saw Jesus when He was troubled. Peter, James and John were Jesus’ inner circle. Friend, who is yours?

My girlfriend who I mentioned is certainly in my inner circle. Because she is my inner circle, she gets to see what a lot of people don’t. This friendship goes beyond the surface and she knows my secret victories, she knows my silent battles and she knows where my heart is when it comes to Jesus.

When I went through a season where I struggled to trust God and His goodness, everyone saw the Linu who came to church every Sunday and sang the songs and went through the motions. But it was only my inner circle who saw the tears before church, who stayed up with me speaking God’s truth when I couldn’t speak it for myself, who prayed for me when I couldn’t pray.

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Friend, I believe that friendships are intended by God to help carry each other’s burden and support each other. However, not everyone can be in your inner circle because not everyone gets the privilege to hear the innermost details of your life. If you are figuring out who is privy to vulnerable details of your life, ask yourself these following questions:


1) Does this person have a any bad habits that I can fall into? 1 Corinthians 15:33

2) Will this person help me when I need help and carry my burdens when I go through a tough season? Job 2:11, Ecclesiastes 4:9-12, Galatians 6:2

3) Will this person keep me accountable and give me tough love if I need it? Proverbs 27:5-6

4) Does this friendship help each other become a better person and a better Christian? Proverbs 27:17

5) Can I trust this person to keep my vulnerabilities and not gossip? Proverbs 16:28, Psalm 37:3

Girlfriend, there are more questions we can ask ourselves when figuring out who your inner circle of friends should be. But one thing still stands – we ought to choose our friends wisely -  Proverbs 12:26.

Lets pray to ask God for guidance in choosing our inner circle:

Lord, we thank you for the gift of friendship and giving us friends who help carry our burden. Lord, we pray that as we evaluate and figure out whose in our inner circle, may we make wise decisions with your input. May we make intentional, godly friendship which you have ordained. In Jesus’ name we ask, amen.

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